We live in a world that rewards urgency. Move fast. Respond quickly. Get ahead. Don’t miss your chance. And yet, I’ve learned—sometimes the hard way—that the moments when I feel most desperate to act are the moments when I most need to pause.

There was a time when urgency ruled my life. If something felt off, I’d rush to “fix it”. If someone wronged me, I wanted to prove a point by spurting out some snarky remark. If an opportunity arose, I feared that if I didn’t jump immediately, I’d miss my chance. The energy behind it all wasn’t clarity—it was fear. Fear of being left behind. Fear of being unseen. Fear of losing control.

But here’s the deal: urgency is a trap. It makes us believe that the most important thing is acting now, when in truth, wisdom isn’t found in how quickly we react but knowing whatis moving us.

I started noticing a pattern in my life. The moments when I wanted to fire off a sharp response to a text message, hit the gas in frustration, or push forward with a decision just to escape the discomfort of uncertainty—those were the moments I most needed to step back. To sit with myself. To listen rather than react.

I won’t pretend it’s easy, in fact, I’ve missed my mark many times. Like when something stirs up frustration, anxiety, or a deep longing for validation, the impulse to “do something” is strong. But I’ve also learned that when I feel the most unsettled, the answer isn’t out there—it’s within me. The feeling of urgency is often just a sign that I am out of alignment with my own integrity. That I am letting my emotions, rather than my wisdom, drive the moment.

Think about the decisions you face each day. Does everything feel like a crisis? A test you need to pass? A problem you need to solve immediately? If so, ask yourself: What happens if I don’t react right now?

More often than not, the answer is: Nothing bad will happen.

But something good might. Clarity might come. Perspective might shift. A better path might reveal itself—one that you couldn’t have seen if you rushed ahead blindly.

I’ve come to trust that when urgency arises, it’s not a call to action—it’s a call to awareness. It’s life’s way of asking me to slow down, to breathe, and to remember that wisdom doesn’t shout. It whispers. And we can only hear it when we are still enough to listen.

So the next time urgency calls, pause before you answer. Your most powerful choices won’t come from rushing—they’ll come from knowing.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

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Seed of Change

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.

Have you ever felt like your world was collapsing in on itself? Like everything you had built—your plans, your security, your sense of self—was slipping through your fingers, and no matter how hard you tried to hold on, the pieces kept falling? In those moments, it’s not just the loss that weighs heavy. It’s the way your focus shrinks, trapping you in the story of what’s gone wrong. The pain, the fear, the late-night spirals where your mind convinces you this is all there is—it becomes impossible to see anything beyond it.

But what if this isn’t the full story? What if, right now, you

are only seeing one frame of a much larger picture?

I know how easy it is to believe that where you are now is where you’ll always be. I’ve been there. I’ve lived through the unraveling, the uncertainty, the feeling that the life I knew had vanished overnight. And I’ve seen it in those I work with—people in the thick of divorce, standing at the threshold of retirement, or waking up to the realization that they’ve spent years meeting everyone’s needs but their own.

But something happens when you step back. When you soften your focus and allow yourself to see more than just this moment. You begin to realize that even in the midst of loss, something remains. That even when life feels like it’s falling apart, it’s actually rearranging itself in ways you can’t yet understand. And in that shift, peace starts to take shape—not because the pain disappears, but because it no longer defines the entire picture.

If you’re standing in that uncertain space right now, take a breath. Zoom out. Trust that there is more ahead than you can see from here. And if you need someone to help you navigate this transition, you don’t have to do it alone.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

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You sit at the kitchen table, staring at the same floral wallpaper you picked out decades ago. The same house. The same routine. The same man across from you, flipping through the morning paper as if you weren’t even there. A lifetime has passed, children raised, anniversaries celebrated, vacations taken. On the outside, your life looks like a success.

But inside?

Inside, you feel invisible. Unheard. Unfulfilled. Unworthy of something more.

You’ve carried this feeling for years—maybe decades. You’ve told yourself to be grateful. You have a house, financial stability, a history together. But no matter how much you remind yourself of what you have, the ache doesn’t go away. Because deep down, you know this is not a marriage. This is a life sentence.

Your husband sees no problem. He’s fine with how things are. In his mind, the two of you have everything you need. But that’s the problem, isn’t it? He has what he needs.You, on the other hand, are starving for connection. For tenderness. For the simple feeling of being seen.​

And then, there’s the guilt.

Guilt for wanting to leave when he hasn’t been outwardly cruel (or what he thinks is cruel). Guilt for disrupting the family, for disappointing your children—even though they’re grown. Guilt for breaking the image of the long-term marriage that others admire.

And the shame.

Shame for not leaving sooner. For staying in something that never truly felt like love. For betraying yourself year after year, hoping things would change, when deep down, you knew they never would.

​I know this place all too well. I was raised Catholic, taught that marriage was forever, no matter how unhappy you were. Divorce wasn’t just frowned upon—it was a failure, a betrayal of vows, of family, of faith. I carried that weight through my own divorces, questioning whether I was selfish, ungrateful, or simply broken.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

Staying in misery does not make you noble. Sacrificing yourself for a marriage that only serves one person is not love.​

And you?

You are not selfish. You are not ungrateful. You are not broken.​

You are a woman who has finally stopped abandoning herself.

And I know how terrifying that is. The unknown. The potential legal battle. The judgment from people who don’t understand. The fear of being alone after so many years of defining yourself as part of a couple.​

But here’s what else I know:

It is not too late for you.

You are worthy of more. Of love, of joy, of peace. Of waking up in the morning and feeling something other than numbness. Of knowing—deep in your bones—that the rest of your life belongs to you, not to someone who stopped seeing you years ago, or never really saw the real you at all.

So, if you’re ready—if even the smallest part of you is whispering, I can’t do this anymore—I invite you to take the first step.

Let’s talk.​

No pressure, no expectations—just a conversation about what’s next for you. Because your story isn’t over. It’s just beginning.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

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Valentine’s Day stirs up a lot of emotions, doesn’t it? Some people embrace the romance, the flowers, the sweet notes tucked inside a card. Others feel the weight of it—a reminder of love that feels out of reach, relationships that no longer exist, or the pressure to have something picture-perfect. And then there are those of us who see it for what it really is: a day that can mean whatever we decide.

For me, Valentine’s Day has always been a little different. Not just because I find great joy in inspiring and guiding people through the complexities of love, relationships, and new beginnings, but because the very next day—February 15th—is my birthday. And somewhere along the way, I decided one day wasn’t enough, so I turned the entire month of February into a 28-day celebration of love, life, and the beauty of simply being.

When I was younger, I believed birthdays and Valentine’s Day were supposed to be magical. There should be grand gestures, romantic surprises, and a table-for-two kind of night. And sometimes, they were. But other times, I found myself waiting—waiting for someone else to make the day special, waiting for love to look the way I thought it should, waiting for some external validation that I was worthy of being celebrated.

That’s the thing about love—we’re so often taught that it comes from outside of us, that it’s something we must earn, attract, or be lucky enough to receive. But the greatest love story you’ll ever live isn’t about finding the perfect partner or having a flawless relationship. It’s about the love you give yourself, the way you honor your own heart, and how you decide—no matter your relationship status—to celebrate you.

So this year, like every year, I’m celebrating my birthday not just as a milestone but as a love note to myself. And I want you to do the same.

Let’s redefine Valentine’s Day. Let’s celebrate all kinds of love—the love we give, the love we receive, the love we are. Whether you are partnered, single, healing, hoping, or simply learning to love yourself a little more each day, you deserve to be celebrated.

And since I’ve officially declared February a month-long celebration, consider this your invitation:
Celebrate you.
Honor where you are in your journey.
Treat yourself to something that makes you feel loved.
Write yourself a love letter.
Buy the flowers—for you.
Eat the chocolate. (I certainly will—probably more than once!)

Because love isn’t just about couples, and it isn’t just about February 14th. It’s about the way we show up for ourselves and each other every day.​

So, Happy Valentine’s Day. Happy You Day. And yes, an early (or extended) Happy Birthday to me.

Let’s celebrate love together—exactly as we are, all month long.

Love and Light,

​Michèle Heffron
​Getting to the Heart – Who You Are and What You’re Meant For

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Self-Compliment Mirror Moment

Stand in front of a mirror—maybe right before you leave the house—and speak one genuine, kind compliment about yourself. It can be about your resilience, your humor, or your strength. Accept it fully, as if receiving a warm hug from a dear friend.

Taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically, is crucial as you navigate life transitions. You’re not alone, and there is a path forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. If you know someone that could use a little boost of Self Care, please feel free to share this tip with them by hitting the button below.